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logans_girl2001This is an update to my last two posts.
I got a jury summons for 2/26 and my neighbor Rachel offered to go with me because I am not comfortable driving downtown.
Saturday, 2/24, I decide to drive the route so I wouldn't be trying to find my way in the dark and with morning traffic. I started getting texts from my neighbor (I will type the texts exactly as she did).
[Rachel 7:27am] Wow It's Really early. I noticed your car home. Are you ok? I Never see you gone this early.
[Rachel 7:31am] You ok. Please I NEED to know! (keep how she asked if I'm okay in mind)
I was driving so didn't respond. When I stopped at Chick-fil-A for breakfast, I saw her texts and we had the following text conversation.
[Me 8:52am] I was just about to text you
[Me 8:53am] I went to map out the route for Monday
[Rachel 8:54am] Oh what's Monday?
[Me 8:54am] I was wondering if you're available to go with me. I got so lost going and coming back. If you can't, I understand. I can sleep at my parents and my mom can take me
She made a comment about what she was currently doing.
[Me 8:55am] I have jury duty
[Rachel 8:57am] Yes as long as I don't get a house or anything (she was given a car by a woman she cleans for with the agreement that she pay them a certain amount each month for it) for work on Monday (before she got the car, she got a job at Whataburger near our apartment). What time is it and where?
She then made a comment about what she had planned for Monday.
[Me 8:59am] I have to be at the courthouse in (I meant on) riverfront (I was typing too fast to capitalize) by 8
She then said that it's easy to find (I literally told her at the start of this conversation that I got lost trying to find it, so, no, it's not that easy to find. She said to not use GPS, to use back roads which is something she knows I do already and that she doesn't want to sit in court all day. She also again said she had things she wanted to do on Monday.
I told her I did take back roads and that I'll just get my mom to do it. It did not escape me that she gave me shit when I didn't want to help her and here she was not wanting to help me. She also bitched A LOT about how no one was willing to help her when she needed them and I really wanted to say something about the irony to her, but didn't.
She went on about how it's easy if you don't take the highway and complaining about all the houses she's being given to clean and then says if my mom can't take me, she will. I had already decided that I was not going to ask her to take me. She's obviously only my friend when she needs me (oops, getting ahead of ourselves).
Last text from her on Saturday was at 9:35am.
Sunday, 2/25, my mother called to say my grandmother had been taken to the hospital. This is the texts we exchanged that day.
[Me 10:05am] Just an fyi, my grandmother is in the hospital. They've kinda called in the family. Just wanted you to know if you see I'm not home
[Rachel 10:05am] I am so sorry. I will be praying for you and her and your family
[Me 10:06am] Thanks
[Me 10:06am] One of my cousins is in Korea and the other is on her way from Texarkana
[Rachel 10:06am] You are welcome. Hang in there. Where do you have to go?
[Rachel 10:07am] Wow that is a very long way
[Rachel 10:07am] It's sucks that you get to see family this way
[Me 10:07am] It's fine because I don't really like this side of the family (they all act like they're better than my mom, my brother, and myself)
She made a comment about what she was going to do that day then sent me the following texts.
[Rachel 10:36am] I would try my best to keep chaos out of the equation this is not about you it's about your father your daughter and your grandmother I know this hurts you too but you need to be a as as as you as you possibly as you possibly as you possibly as you possibly can to that side of the family to your dad and your daughter because he is losing the only mom that he's ever known and your daughter is losing a grandparent (great-grandparent, but who cares? Also, how is this NOT about me when it's MY grandmother?)
[Rachel 10:36am] Set aside your differences even if you didn't like your grandmother set aside your differences for your dad and your daughter don't do something that you'll regret later or have people talking about you later about (I never said I didn't like my grandmother. I was talking about my aunt and cousins)
[Rachel 10:36am] Be the bigger better person and woman
[Me 10:37am] I don't think these were meant for me (she would often send me texts about people getting all up in her business and send me a text twice and things like that so I thought this was what was happening, I usually ignored those texts but couldn't this time)
[Rachel 10:37am] It'll make you feel better in the long run and who knows it may change a lot of things for you
[Rachel 10:37am] This is absolutely meant for you Melissa
[Rachel 10:37am] Just a word of advice
[Rachel 10:37am] You said you don't really like that side of the family anyways so I'm just giving you some strong advice whether you take it or not that's your business (keep in mind that I never said we were arguing, just that I don't like that side of the family)
[Rachel 10:39am] It hurts me to hear about families that can't even like each other at a funeral there has to be discord at a funeral that's awful
[Rachel 10:40am] Putting someone to rest and then you have to have discord with the other side of the family that's just nonsense
[Rachel 10:40am] Not everyone sees eye to eye but it's a time to set differences aside
She then told me what to do about my jury duty, not even asking if I had contacted them or not. As soon as my mother called me, I looked up what I needed to do. I found an email address so sent an email telling them about the death, even though she wasn't dead yet, and asking how to get exempt due to panic attacks. I have contacted my doctor but have not received a response. I do have an appointment coming up but would like this resolved sooner. I just might have to call Monday.
When I got home from the hospital, I went to get the mail and noticed a couple of boxes on her back porch. I texted and told her about them. Her response?
[Rachel 6:23pm] No they just said it was out for delivery. I'm going to bed. Is Grandma (I've told her we call her Granny) still hanging on?
I told her that she is and they were moving her to a hospice facility.
At 6:30, she sent several more texts, after telling me she was going to bed. This is something else she'd do a lot of. She'd either continue to text me or she'd call and keep me on the phone for an hour.
[Rachel 6:30pm] I ALSO have that in Special notes if I am Note here for my packages to be delivered to my back Patio!!!!!!
[Rachel 6:32pm] Nothing has changed I have Always done this (done what?)
[Rachel 6:33pm] I feel like I have No privacy and I am hating it!
[Me 6:34pm] Why do you feel like that? I just wanted to make sure you got your packages
[Rachel 6:37pm] I am in bed. I am exhausted
Monday at 2:19pm she texted asking how court went. Did she really think I was going to go with my grandmother on her death bed!? I told her I didn't go. She told me I needed to make sure they know why I didn't go because the judge would issue a warrant for my arrest. Does she really think I'm that stupid?
I told her that I have had at least one panic attack a day since I got the summons and was having one the whole time I was trying to find the courthouse and that when I was told about Granny, I emailed and told them.
She said that I need to get that exemption letter ASAP (No, really?).
She then texted that she had won some money on a slot machine.
Then Tuesday, she texted pictures of what she made for dinner and asked if I wanted some as well as asking how I was feeling.
Then we had a conversation about how my daughter had not invited Granny to her wedding, mostly because she knew she wouldn't go.
Another of our neighbors is actively dying of cancer and she made some comments about her.
Then, I texted her yesterday that Granny had died and that I was headed to my parents' house so that she wouldn't worry when she came home and saw my car gone.
When I got home we had this text conversation.
[Me 8:33pm] I just got home from my parents' and saw you're not home. You okay? (remember how she 'asked' if I was okay Saturday when she saw my car gone?)
[Rachel 8:35pm] I am home and you were home before me. I was out getting my hair done. I have a house Early early in the morning. I have been out doing my hair since 3pm today. She w
Really pissed me off. I asked for a Sun-Kissed Spring/Summer look not a grayish look or winter look
She then sent several pics of her hair. I think it's very nice. In fact, I would love to have hair that color but can't afford the upkeep.
I told her that I probably wouldn't cry until the service and she asked why. Her last text to me was at 8:54 last night and was about stuff that had nothing to do with what we had been talking about so I didn't respond.
Then this morning, out of literal no where, she sent me this text.
[Rachel 8:07am] I don't know how to be any more nicer than I am about this but I'm really sick of being kept tabs on and I'm never here in the spring in the winter I was never here when I had my rogue I'm always on the go I am a very very social butterfly I am now dating and I don't want people to constantly ask me where I've been or where I'm going or where I'm coming from or when I'm coming home it must stop or I'm going to move I can't take it anymore
[Rachel 8:08am] I'm stressed out living in my own home and I should not have to be
[Rachel 8:08am] I just want to stay gone all the time because I know I'm being watched
I didn't respond, because like I said, she would send this type of texts often and I never thought they were aimed at me.
[Rachel 8:17am] I have just never been a neighborly neighborly person unless my neighbor is sick or something I have just always been a person to be to myself and nobody know my business and all this junk is just not cutting it with me
[Rachel 8:18am] I shouldn't have to pack up and transfer just to feel at ease in my own place again I don't like where I'm at and I should not have to feel like that I shouldn't have to want to stay gone all the time or wait until somebody goes to bed to feel like I'm not being watched I don't do that to others and I don't expect them to do it to me
[Me 8:18am] I have received your message loud and clear. I will not inquire about your wellbeing again (I was hoping to keep this friendship)
[Rachel 8:19am] Oh Melissa please that is not my well-being that is being nosy (so, now it's being nosy when wondering if your friend is okay?)
[Me 8:20am] If this is how you feel I guess you should stop texting me. I have no problem staying in my lane. I spoke to you that first day because I thought you might need a friend but it's clear you don't (I really thought this would be the end of it)
[Rachel 8:21am] Where's the difference between a damn friend and someone knowing every single move you make and you are not going to piss me off this morning I'm going to tell you that right now you're worrying is absurd and your daughter is totally correct you are being absurd about everything (not sure what she's talking about here because I have NEVER asked her where she's going, what she's doing, or when she'll be home. Also not sure what she means about my daughter saying I'm being absurd about everything?)
[Rachel 8:21am]*there's a difference
I was going to leave it at that and just block her but the more I thought about it, the more I needed to say my piece, so I sent her this text.
[Me 8:55am] I will be blocking you after this so don't worry that I'll ask how you're doing ever again. I have been told that I have a tendency to smother people. I have done my best to not over step. If my asking if you were okay when I got home last night when I expected you to be is being nosy, so very sorry. This is the LAST thing I need to be worrying about right now. MY GRANDMOTHER DIED YESTERDAY and instead of being a good friend who would let me cry on her shoulder you decide to bitch about one text asking if you're okay. Especially considering the accident you had not that long ago. Also you said you were in Mesquite and with the rain I wanted to make sure MY FRIEND hadn't been in an accident. So don't worry. Message received. I am perfectly fine sitting in my apartment all by myself. I was doing that before and I can do it again
So, what I learned through all this, is that she's the type of person who wants everyone to be at her beck and call but doesn't want you to check in on her (because that's just being nosy!) and when she doesn't need you, then you can just fuck off. Unless you have a dick. She would tell me all the time how all these men want is to fuck her and when I would tell her to start saying no, she would sigh and say she would, but then the next time one would come around, she'd take him to bed.
I have decided that I will not tell her when her dog is outside or when there are packages on her front or back porch. Because that is apparently being nosy.
I got a jury summons for 2/26 and my neighbor Rachel offered to go with me because I am not comfortable driving downtown.
Saturday, 2/24, I decide to drive the route so I wouldn't be trying to find my way in the dark and with morning traffic. I started getting texts from my neighbor (I will type the texts exactly as she did).
[Rachel 7:27am] Wow It's Really early. I noticed your car home. Are you ok? I Never see you gone this early.
[Rachel 7:31am] You ok. Please I NEED to know! (keep how she asked if I'm okay in mind)
I was driving so didn't respond. When I stopped at Chick-fil-A for breakfast, I saw her texts and we had the following text conversation.
[Me 8:52am] I was just about to text you
[Me 8:53am] I went to map out the route for Monday
[Rachel 8:54am] Oh what's Monday?
[Me 8:54am] I was wondering if you're available to go with me. I got so lost going and coming back. If you can't, I understand. I can sleep at my parents and my mom can take me
She made a comment about what she was currently doing.
[Me 8:55am] I have jury duty
[Rachel 8:57am] Yes as long as I don't get a house or anything (she was given a car by a woman she cleans for with the agreement that she pay them a certain amount each month for it) for work on Monday (before she got the car, she got a job at Whataburger near our apartment). What time is it and where?
She then made a comment about what she had planned for Monday.
[Me 8:59am] I have to be at the courthouse in (I meant on) riverfront (I was typing too fast to capitalize) by 8
She then said that it's easy to find (I literally told her at the start of this conversation that I got lost trying to find it, so, no, it's not that easy to find. She said to not use GPS, to use back roads which is something she knows I do already and that she doesn't want to sit in court all day. She also again said she had things she wanted to do on Monday.
I told her I did take back roads and that I'll just get my mom to do it. It did not escape me that she gave me shit when I didn't want to help her and here she was not wanting to help me. She also bitched A LOT about how no one was willing to help her when she needed them and I really wanted to say something about the irony to her, but didn't.
She went on about how it's easy if you don't take the highway and complaining about all the houses she's being given to clean and then says if my mom can't take me, she will. I had already decided that I was not going to ask her to take me. She's obviously only my friend when she needs me (oops, getting ahead of ourselves).
Last text from her on Saturday was at 9:35am.
Sunday, 2/25, my mother called to say my grandmother had been taken to the hospital. This is the texts we exchanged that day.
[Me 10:05am] Just an fyi, my grandmother is in the hospital. They've kinda called in the family. Just wanted you to know if you see I'm not home
[Rachel 10:05am] I am so sorry. I will be praying for you and her and your family
[Me 10:06am] Thanks
[Me 10:06am] One of my cousins is in Korea and the other is on her way from Texarkana
[Rachel 10:06am] You are welcome. Hang in there. Where do you have to go?
[Rachel 10:07am] Wow that is a very long way
[Rachel 10:07am] It's sucks that you get to see family this way
[Me 10:07am] It's fine because I don't really like this side of the family (they all act like they're better than my mom, my brother, and myself)
She made a comment about what she was going to do that day then sent me the following texts.
[Rachel 10:36am] I would try my best to keep chaos out of the equation this is not about you it's about your father your daughter and your grandmother I know this hurts you too but you need to be a as as as you as you possibly as you possibly as you possibly as you possibly can to that side of the family to your dad and your daughter because he is losing the only mom that he's ever known and your daughter is losing a grandparent (great-grandparent, but who cares? Also, how is this NOT about me when it's MY grandmother?)
[Rachel 10:36am] Set aside your differences even if you didn't like your grandmother set aside your differences for your dad and your daughter don't do something that you'll regret later or have people talking about you later about (I never said I didn't like my grandmother. I was talking about my aunt and cousins)
[Rachel 10:36am] Be the bigger better person and woman
[Me 10:37am] I don't think these were meant for me (she would often send me texts about people getting all up in her business and send me a text twice and things like that so I thought this was what was happening, I usually ignored those texts but couldn't this time)
[Rachel 10:37am] It'll make you feel better in the long run and who knows it may change a lot of things for you
[Rachel 10:37am] This is absolutely meant for you Melissa
[Rachel 10:37am] Just a word of advice
[Rachel 10:37am] You said you don't really like that side of the family anyways so I'm just giving you some strong advice whether you take it or not that's your business (keep in mind that I never said we were arguing, just that I don't like that side of the family)
[Rachel 10:39am] It hurts me to hear about families that can't even like each other at a funeral there has to be discord at a funeral that's awful
[Rachel 10:40am] Putting someone to rest and then you have to have discord with the other side of the family that's just nonsense
[Rachel 10:40am] Not everyone sees eye to eye but it's a time to set differences aside
She then told me what to do about my jury duty, not even asking if I had contacted them or not. As soon as my mother called me, I looked up what I needed to do. I found an email address so sent an email telling them about the death, even though she wasn't dead yet, and asking how to get exempt due to panic attacks. I have contacted my doctor but have not received a response. I do have an appointment coming up but would like this resolved sooner. I just might have to call Monday.
When I got home from the hospital, I went to get the mail and noticed a couple of boxes on her back porch. I texted and told her about them. Her response?
[Rachel 6:23pm] No they just said it was out for delivery. I'm going to bed. Is Grandma (I've told her we call her Granny) still hanging on?
I told her that she is and they were moving her to a hospice facility.
At 6:30, she sent several more texts, after telling me she was going to bed. This is something else she'd do a lot of. She'd either continue to text me or she'd call and keep me on the phone for an hour.
[Rachel 6:30pm] I ALSO have that in Special notes if I am Note here for my packages to be delivered to my back Patio!!!!!!
[Rachel 6:32pm] Nothing has changed I have Always done this (done what?)
[Rachel 6:33pm] I feel like I have No privacy and I am hating it!
[Me 6:34pm] Why do you feel like that? I just wanted to make sure you got your packages
[Rachel 6:37pm] I am in bed. I am exhausted
Monday at 2:19pm she texted asking how court went. Did she really think I was going to go with my grandmother on her death bed!? I told her I didn't go. She told me I needed to make sure they know why I didn't go because the judge would issue a warrant for my arrest. Does she really think I'm that stupid?
I told her that I have had at least one panic attack a day since I got the summons and was having one the whole time I was trying to find the courthouse and that when I was told about Granny, I emailed and told them.
She said that I need to get that exemption letter ASAP (No, really?).
She then texted that she had won some money on a slot machine.
Then Tuesday, she texted pictures of what she made for dinner and asked if I wanted some as well as asking how I was feeling.
Then we had a conversation about how my daughter had not invited Granny to her wedding, mostly because she knew she wouldn't go.
Another of our neighbors is actively dying of cancer and she made some comments about her.
Then, I texted her yesterday that Granny had died and that I was headed to my parents' house so that she wouldn't worry when she came home and saw my car gone.
When I got home we had this text conversation.
[Me 8:33pm] I just got home from my parents' and saw you're not home. You okay? (remember how she 'asked' if I was okay Saturday when she saw my car gone?)
[Rachel 8:35pm] I am home and you were home before me. I was out getting my hair done. I have a house Early early in the morning. I have been out doing my hair since 3pm today. She w
Really pissed me off. I asked for a Sun-Kissed Spring/Summer look not a grayish look or winter look
She then sent several pics of her hair. I think it's very nice. In fact, I would love to have hair that color but can't afford the upkeep.
I told her that I probably wouldn't cry until the service and she asked why. Her last text to me was at 8:54 last night and was about stuff that had nothing to do with what we had been talking about so I didn't respond.
Then this morning, out of literal no where, she sent me this text.
[Rachel 8:07am] I don't know how to be any more nicer than I am about this but I'm really sick of being kept tabs on and I'm never here in the spring in the winter I was never here when I had my rogue I'm always on the go I am a very very social butterfly I am now dating and I don't want people to constantly ask me where I've been or where I'm going or where I'm coming from or when I'm coming home it must stop or I'm going to move I can't take it anymore
[Rachel 8:08am] I'm stressed out living in my own home and I should not have to be
[Rachel 8:08am] I just want to stay gone all the time because I know I'm being watched
I didn't respond, because like I said, she would send this type of texts often and I never thought they were aimed at me.
[Rachel 8:17am] I have just never been a neighborly neighborly person unless my neighbor is sick or something I have just always been a person to be to myself and nobody know my business and all this junk is just not cutting it with me
[Rachel 8:18am] I shouldn't have to pack up and transfer just to feel at ease in my own place again I don't like where I'm at and I should not have to feel like that I shouldn't have to want to stay gone all the time or wait until somebody goes to bed to feel like I'm not being watched I don't do that to others and I don't expect them to do it to me
[Me 8:18am] I have received your message loud and clear. I will not inquire about your wellbeing again (I was hoping to keep this friendship)
[Rachel 8:19am] Oh Melissa please that is not my well-being that is being nosy (so, now it's being nosy when wondering if your friend is okay?)
[Me 8:20am] If this is how you feel I guess you should stop texting me. I have no problem staying in my lane. I spoke to you that first day because I thought you might need a friend but it's clear you don't (I really thought this would be the end of it)
[Rachel 8:21am] Where's the difference between a damn friend and someone knowing every single move you make and you are not going to piss me off this morning I'm going to tell you that right now you're worrying is absurd and your daughter is totally correct you are being absurd about everything (not sure what she's talking about here because I have NEVER asked her where she's going, what she's doing, or when she'll be home. Also not sure what she means about my daughter saying I'm being absurd about everything?)
[Rachel 8:21am]*there's a difference
I was going to leave it at that and just block her but the more I thought about it, the more I needed to say my piece, so I sent her this text.
[Me 8:55am] I will be blocking you after this so don't worry that I'll ask how you're doing ever again. I have been told that I have a tendency to smother people. I have done my best to not over step. If my asking if you were okay when I got home last night when I expected you to be is being nosy, so very sorry. This is the LAST thing I need to be worrying about right now. MY GRANDMOTHER DIED YESTERDAY and instead of being a good friend who would let me cry on her shoulder you decide to bitch about one text asking if you're okay. Especially considering the accident you had not that long ago. Also you said you were in Mesquite and with the rain I wanted to make sure MY FRIEND hadn't been in an accident. So don't worry. Message received. I am perfectly fine sitting in my apartment all by myself. I was doing that before and I can do it again
So, what I learned through all this, is that she's the type of person who wants everyone to be at her beck and call but doesn't want you to check in on her (because that's just being nosy!) and when she doesn't need you, then you can just fuck off. Unless you have a dick. She would tell me all the time how all these men want is to fuck her and when I would tell her to start saying no, she would sigh and say she would, but then the next time one would come around, she'd take him to bed.
I have decided that I will not tell her when her dog is outside or when there are packages on her front or back porch. Because that is apparently being nosy.
